Reading time approx: 9 minutes
What is gay sex?
Sexual intercourse between two (or more) men is colloquially referred to as gay sex.
As a rule, the boys or men involved are gay, i.e. homosexual and are sexually attracted exclusively to the same sex.
Note: The opposite of equal-loving women is lesbian sex, although these women are also homosexual.
Gay sex works very similarly to the “normal” sexual act among heterosexual people.
The goal is to eroticize each other, to give sexual pleasure to the other and, ideally, to bring them to orgasm and ejaculation.
There are countless ways and a wide spectrum, from dirty talk and light touches to hard anal sex and sperm games.
So, let’s take a closer look.
What are the options for sex among men
Anal sex in homosexual couples
Anal sex, sometimes called Greek sex, is arguably the most well-known sex practice for gay people.
How does anal intercourse work? The penis of one partner is pushed into the anus (asshole) of the other in the erect state, that is, when the dick is hard.
Through in and out movements and the resulting friction, both the penis of one partner, and the buttocks of the other are sexually stimulated.
Hand-job : fun with the penis
In the hand-job, the penis is stimulated with the hand. There are very different techniques for this.
Don’t worry, you don’t need to learn a special technique like Lingam massage to have fun doing a hand-job.
In the beginning, it is enough if you simply masturbate the dick. If you don’t know exactly how to do this, here are some good tricks for you.
Oral sex : the penis blowjob
Oral sex is when a person’s genitals are satisfied with the mouth (orally) by another person.
If a penis is kissed with the tongue and mouth, licked and blown is called a blowjob.
There are several options on how to blow your buddy well. Why not take a look at our guide to blowjob tips.
Games : everything that satisfies your need allows
In addition to the three classics, there is a whole range of available games. Why do homosexuals play with the anus?
Because he is highly sensitive and has many nerve endings there. Good feelings can easily be triggered here, for the recipient.
Now let’s look at a few possibilities:
- Fingering the buttock
- Lick the ass (also called anilingus or rimming)
- Prostate massage
- Use of sex toys, such as butt plugs, dildos, anal vibrators, etc.
The first time gay sex
Have you never had sex with a man? In this case, we’ll give you an introduction now so that you can get a good idea of what to expect.
By the way, many boys or men who do not classify themselves as homosexual also have the sex fantasy of sharing the bed with another man.
If you’re used to sex with women, the first time gay sex is something extraordinary. Women tend to have significantly different preferences and sex desires.
In general, gay sex is a bit harder and rougher because men have more physical strength and are more focused on physical stimulation.
Of course, every person is individual. The gay community is extremely diverse, so you don’t have to pretend. Just be yourself!
What is top or bottom?
During sex, there is usually a partner who is dominant and a part who is more submissive and subordinates himself. In heterosexual couples, the male usually plays the dominant role.
A similar principle also exists for gay couples. The top, therefore, is the one who takes the dominant role and penetrates the anus from the bottom, the submissive part, with the penis.
If a gay person likes to take on both roles, this is known as being “versatile”.
How does gay sex feel?
Gay sex feels very intense. Anal sex is very stimulating for the active part because the anus is very tight, which leads to increased friction. If you are not used to this, you may reach the climax very quickly.
s a passive sex partner, you feel the penetration deep within you. The first time anal sex is a very unusual feeling.
You feel very “filled” during anal intercourse. Many homosexuals report that this experience is said to be very beguiling after a few times.
The skin of men feels different than that of girls or women.
It is harder and not so supple. The smell of a male partner is different, especially if there is a lot of sweating during sexual intercourse.
I recommend you to try your fantasy of gay sex for yourself. The image you make in your head is probably different than it will be in reality.
Best Gay Sex Positions
What sex positions should you try with a gay partner? In principle, you can use all sex positions for straight people, even with a man.
Recommended are definitely the classics, such as:
- Doggy style
- Missionary position
- Or the rider position
In this guide you will find more specific sex positions for gays.
Tips for sex with gays
Now it’s about important information to keep in mind when having sex with another gay, bisexual, or bi-curious man.
Preparation is the be-all and end-all
Very important is the anal sex preparation. In contrast to vaginal intercourse, anal intercourse has some special features that you should keep in mind.
The anus is not designed for sex by nature, but as an intestinal outlet. With poor and even average hygiene, many intestinal bacteria can be found there.
It is therefore important if you want to have anal intercourse with a partner to do a thorough cleaning beforehand.
A suitable tool is a so-called shower.
Furthermore, it is best to empty your intestines, otherwise it may be that the gay sex ends with feces on the penis. This is probably distracting for many people.
You need a lubricant so that it flows properly
In order for you or your friend to feel real pleasure and live out your sexuality properly, you need a good lubricant.
It is best to buy a special anal lubricant beforehand. A conventional lubricant can also be used. Home remedies are rather discouraged.
Safer sex, especially for homosexuals
You probably already knew it, but it’s important to emphasize it again: Condoms are simply part of sex between homosexuals because the risk of infection with a sexually transmitted disease is particularly high.
Two men are never at risk of unwanted pregnancy, which is why it is so tempting to simply omit the condom.
But even if the pure penetration of skin on skin is very tempting: use a condom, especially with a one-night stand.
If you have a permanent friend or partner and you have been tested, then of course it’s a lot different.
Inspiration for gay sex
If you’ve never had gay sex before, you can get a good impression of it online. Anyone can search for gay porn on relevant porn sites, no matter what you’re into, you’re guaranteed to find it there.
The problem with consumption is the lack of interactivity. Real sex takes place with interpersonal communication.
Where do you find gay men for sex?
Okay, if online services such as Cam4 are no longer enough for you, and you want to experience a real orgasm with another guy, the following question inevitably arises: Where can you find gay guys who want to have sex?
In our guide to gay dating apps you will find the best portals for homosexual men.
In our experience, these apps for fast gay sex work best:
- Grindr
- Tinder
So, we hope you were able to clarify all your questions in this article. If you have even more needs or an open question, just send us a comment.