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Orgasms come in all sorts of variations. There is the clitoral orgasm, the G-spot orgasm, the cervical orgasm and even the so-called “core orgasm”, which some women can experience through the use of their core muscles during training.
But the one type of climax that few women have ever experienced is the anal orgasm. Yes, there really is one!
However, before you lose sight of the idea of a climax through the back door, let sex experts explain why this area is a secret erogenous zone, and how stimulating that area can deepen your sexual pleasure.
What exactly is an orgasm?
Simply put, an orgasm is the result of sexual stimulation of the nerves in and around the anus.
The anus is full of nerves, especially the incredibly erogenous pudendal nerve, which is connected to the clitoris. The pudendal nerve conducts sensations to and from the perineum and also reaches the vagina, vulva and anus.
How does this type of orgasm feel? Some women perceive it as similar to a clitoral orgasm – a pulsation of pleasant contractions, but this time around the sphincter. Others are more likely to feel a “spreading wave” of lust.
Preparation is the be-all and end-all
Some women reach this peak during penetrative sex with their partner’s penis, while others get there through lighter touches or the use of toys.
As with any other type of orgasm, there is no “right” way, and every woman has her own technique, which depends on what feels good for her body and what she finds pleasant.
That said, the way to get started is to experiment. Pleasurable anal play can happen with an anal vibrator, plug or beads, a penis or dildo, finger play, anilingus ….. well, anything really.
As with any type of sex, it’s good to start with extensive foreplay, e.g. with touching, kissing, and vaginal and clitoral stimulation. From then on, you should take it slow.
Take it slowly, use your hands, help your partner relax, and make sure you both feel comfortable.
Once you’re relaxed and ready, start with a tongue or finger to gently stimulate the area of the anus. If you’re aroused, try pushing a finger or the tip of a plug into it.
The muscles will open naturally so that the plug or finger can get in. If you have to force it, you’re not ready yet.
Anal sex should work without pain
Anal sex without pain – is that really possible? Many people are very worried about the possibility of pain before their first time of trying anal. In fact, with an untrained anus, pain can occur quite quickly. And in the worst case, injuries are also possible.
However, we can reassure you that if you approach it in a relaxed way, and plan the right amount of time (i.e. don’t rush it), then you will succeed without pain, guaranteed!
Here are the most important tips for pain prevention:
- Plan the pleasure in advance and empty the intestines beforehand so that the penis is not disturbed during penetration. (This can hurt the man a lot).
- Relax, loosen up and talk about clear boundaries beforehand.
- Stretch the buttocks. This works particularly well with one finger or alternatively a good anal-plug.
- Use lubricant when penetrating, and ensure that the penis is completely erect.
- Penetration should be very slow. The passive (or bottom) should give instructions when and how quickly to advance.
Achieving the end game
If the anus is prepared, you can try something bigger – for example, a butt plug, a strap-on or a penis. Once the plug or finger easily slides in and out of the anus without it being uncomfortable, you can move on to penetrative sex.
If you decide to use a sex toy, we recommend that you use one that is slightly longer than your finger, no wider than two fingers, not textured, and preferably made of a flexible material.
The more you get into it, the more you may feel very pleasant sensations in the area, even a build-up of pressure that turns into contraction-like waves.
If what you’re experiencing isn’t quite the liberation you usually feel when you orgasm, it should still feel good.
If you experience great sensations, but don’t quite reach the climax, just keep trying, take a deep breath – and forget about the idea of having an orgasm.
Pressure, stress and anxiety are the biggest blockers of orgasm. Stay in the moment as you explore the sensations of play. As with any kind of orgasm, the finale must not be the whole game.
The best sex positions for the orgasm
Anal sex, as well as vaginal sex, is possible in various sex positions. In principle, you can use all these variants for anal intercourse:
- Doggy style
- Missionary
- Spoon position
- Rider position (for the more advanced)
So what are you waiting for? Let’s have some fun with the pleasure of anal orgasms.