Question: Why is it culturally acceptable for guys to watch porn but not girls? Why do lots of girls feel like they have to keep it a secret, like it’s something to be ashamed of and not something you would EVER admit to on a first, second, hell, fifth date? If it’s good enough for the goose, it’s good enough for the gander, right? (Or should that be the other way around?).
The thing is as human beings we have a natural inclination to voyeurism, in other words, and to put it a bit more bluntly, we enjoy watching other people fuck. It is a total and guaranteed turn on for the majority of people, a natural, instinctive reaction that really is nothing to be ashamed of. And it makes no difference if you’re single, married, male, female, gay or straight.
The benefits of watching porn:
OK, here are some of the pros to watching adult consensual porn. Firstly it’s much safer than going out to a club and hooking up with the first guy you meet who has a twinkle in his eye. If you’re feeling horny and you decide to settle down for an hour or two of porn there’s 0 chance of catching an STD or ending up pregnant. And that’s got to be a good thing, right?
Watching porn can also teach you a lot about your own sexual sensibilities. You learn what turns you on, what you feel comfortable with, and more importantly, what you don’t feel comfortable with. If you’re not getting excited at the sight of a hot couple engaged in a particular sexual activity, then the chances are you won’t be getting too excited about actually doing it either. It can be a learning experience and open you up to lots of ideas and techniques you might never come across otherwise.
So what about the argument that watching porn gives people a completely unrealistic idea of what sex is all about?
OK, there’s no doubt that young, impressionable minds may think that what they see on screen is EXACTLY what happens every time you have sex. But porn is not the only culprit here. Every romantic comedy, raunchy novel, (bloody Twilight for God’s sake) ever made or written is also responsible for giving people unrealistic expectations about sex. Sex is never as good as it looks on screen – be that porn or your average 15 rated movie – until you get damn good at it!
People get addicted to porn – another argument we hear constantly from the anti-porn brigade. People get addicted to lots of stuff – video games, chat rooms, Facebook, anything else that distracts them from the real world and their real-life issues. So that argument pretty much dies on its arse. If porn starts to become an issue that distracts you from your work or your studies then yes it’s probably something to be concerned about. But the problem is not porn – the problem is your underlying issue and porn just happens to be what you use as your escape pod.
It gives men and women unrealistic ideas about how they should look – so does every fucking magazine on the stand in your local WH Smith! End of argument. And porn stars are no different to any actor or actress you see in a movie; they look a million dollars because they’re being paid to look a million dollars. Catch them first thing in the morning after a night on the town and we can guarantee they won’t look quite as tempting!
All porn is geared towards men anyway – ok to be fair a lot of it is. And there are lots of skinny blondes with gigantic tits and tiny, pert bums. BUT there is also plenty of porn out there that is made by women for women; you just have to look for it. It might take a little bit longer to find the porn that really floats your boat but when you do it will be worth it – promise!