Spanking is something that everyone should try at least once – just to see what all the fuss is about. You’ll either decide that you’re much more of a slow and sensual person or you’ll discover that actually it feels pretty fucking great and you’d like some more of it please. If you’ve never taken the palm or the paddle to someone’s ass (or had the palm or the paddle on your own) then here’s a quick intro.
On a purely physical level what spanking does is increase the blood flow and cause an adrenaline spike. And adrenaline is what helps get you really fired up and make sex all the more exciting. Now for some people spanking is part and parcel of foreplay, no more or less exciting than kissing, say. But for others the slightly risqué, taboo aspect of it is what really gets the juices flowing and leads to an adrenaline spike before a single spank has been administered!
If you’ve never tried spanking before the best way to get going is just to come straight out and ask for it! Talk about it before hand to gauge how the other person feels. If it’s a green light then introduce it as part of the foreplay the next time you have sex.
Safe words – these are important so that nobody ends up getting hurt or feeling violated in any way. If you’re doing the spanking, always start off gently and see what kind of reaction you’re getting. If you’re the one being spanked, as soon as it starts to feel uncomfortable say so.
It’s probably not a good idea to get straight into it as soon as you’ve got your kit off. Most people find that spanking is only really a turn on when things have heated up already. So do whatever you do to get in the mood and introduce it before oral.
Like everything else techniques vary, but a good place to start is with one hand on the genitals and one on the butt cheeks. Keeping your fingers together and your hands slightly cupped spank in an upwards motion as this feels more comfortable than going downwards. If you think your partner would prefer something with a bit more sting then keep your hand flatter and the spanks short and sharp. The slap should be followed by pleasure so rub the butt cheek gently in circles and stroke the clit/cup the balls at the same time. Multitasking is essential!
If this goes well and you decide that spanking is the way forward then you can think about investing in a nice paddle or whip. A quick Google search will lead you to adult stores where you can buy them in every conceivable colour, shape and size!