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Since the hit movie ‘Fifty shades of grey’, sadomasochism has arrived in the middle of our society. Finally, because it was time! But what is it really all about? Is there more hidden behind it than paint, leather, whips and punishment?
What is the difference between sadism and masochism? And what about all the sadomasochism terms?
In this article you will learn everything about SM, and you will also get to know the BDSM scene. You will get all the necessary tips and tricks, and get to know sadomasochism from a completely different side.
You will learn to interpret sadomasochism terms in a completely new way and to understand your inclination. Because only those who understand this variety can experience it to the fullest extent.
Humiliation, subservience, and satisfaction are closer together than you might think right at this moment in time.
High interest through ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’
Finally a film that shows the game between dominance and submission in the best possible way. This is a woman who gets to know and love a man who likes to practice sadomasochism.
These sadomasochism games show themselves from a completely new and in-artificial side, and declares war on the typical cliché.
The staging of violence is clearly presented here. A forbidden topic has become a trend that has become an integral part of TV. In films, it has not been a big part of violence to this extent, especially when it comes to novels.
If you are interested in the topic, this blockbuster can be considered a perfect introduction, because the film not only makes you hot, but also stimulates your own sex fantasy.
What does sadomasochism mean?
Sadomasochism is composed of a combination of words. It is composed of the words sadism and masochism . The former describes a sexual preference. This stimulus comes from the infliction of pain.
So it means that a sadistic person is into inflicting pain on others. Most of the time, this role is taken over by a dominatrix. The latter describes the desire to be inflicted with pain.
People who are keen to submit in order to derive their satisfaction from it are called masochists. This is about submission, which demands a reasoned dominance of the partner.
These people, for example, like a role-playing game, which is staged with punishment, for example in the form of shackles with handcuffs.
Testing borders, in the form of staging violence. The execution of Sadomasochism, also called “SM” for short, is in most cases combined with various fetishes.
For example, punishment. Playing with urine, or corporal punishment, is not uncommon.
However, one thing must not be swapped under any circumstances. Even if it seems so at first. Sadomasochism Is never forced and is always practiced amicably. Both parties want this equally.
The BDSM scene
BDSM is an abbreviation for Bondage, Discipline (or Dominance), Sadism (or Submission) and Masochism and thus combines all individual terms into one large collective term. In this so-called collective term, the most diverse varieties are combined with each other.
The initial letters of the individual words are composed of this umbrella term. So there is something for everyone. Whether dominance, or even submission. BDSM does not necessarily require sex.
Of course, sexual intercourse can always occur, but BDSM does not require this. The actions themselves are much more important and have the highest priority.
In addition, BDSM can be divided into three major topics, all of which can stand on their own, alone, but can also occur in pairs. However, most often they occur in a mixture. These include pain, humiliation and dominance.
How far the pain can go is entirely up to the participants themselves. So it can happen that for the orgasm aids such as nipple clamps, whips and handcuffs are used.
But how far you go is usually highly regulated and predetermined.
So it can usual for couples, or beginners, to use code words which immediately ends the game of dominance and submission. Couples who have been practicing BDSM together for some time don’t need a code word. If you know your partner, you know how far you can go.
Sadomasochism signal words
If you want to try sadomasochism, you should definitely deal with the different terms. That’s right, SM has its own terms. These do not reduce the humiliation, but you will find that nothing serious happens to you.
For example, injuries that are protracted and could seriously limit you. These signal words are important, especially when it comes to bondage, or punishments.
Especially if you do not know your sexual partner well and they cannot interpret your physical signals, you should be able to end the matter with a certain word. It is best to discuss these words together with your partner in advance.
We will introduce you to these possible terms now. Of course, you can opt for other terms and signal words. For example, a safe word can be “red”, which in this case means that any action is terminated immediately.
These can be, for example, blows in conjunction with stimulation. As soon as the signal word falls, the game is over. “Orange” can mean that you are close to the border.
Of course, these are only examples that should inspire you. Which words you ultimately choose is up to you and does not really matter much.
The main thing is that you remember the word in an emergency! So stay away from long and complicated words. In an emergency, it simply has to be done quickly.
All-important sadomasochism terms
Of course, there are terms that you only find in the erotic scene and ultimately use. These terms describes certain preferences, roles, or practices. In the spirit of the sadomasochism scene, with the right words, the whole thing is even more fun.
Dom:
Dom is a term for the dominant who punishes and humiliates the submissive partner.
A dom is gender-independent and thus only describes the preference. So if you’re into inflicting pain on someone, maybe the part of the dom is just right for you.
Sub:
Sub is the name for a submissive. In short, the devotee is the one who likes to suffer pain and enjoys it.
A sub fulfills the wishes of the dom and submits to it consciously and voluntarily. Disobedience by a sub is usually followed by punishment.
Age play:
This is a role-playing game! Role-playing games are very popular in the SM scene. The Age Play is the exchange of different age roles.
For example, mother / father and child. However, this tendency is by no means a disturbance.
It is simply a sexual preference, which can be lived out in this way without offending in society. Pain does not play a major role, but rather the fetish itself.
Pet play:
The name says it all and actually tells you everything you need to know. Here, one takes on that of the animal, while the other treats it, just like you treat an animal.
Bondage:
Hello bondage games! Bondage can be carried out in a variety of ways.
For example, by gagging or shackling. Of course, you can use any kind of toys. Ropes are especially popular, as are straitjackets and handcuffs.
Doctor games:
This is a really popular role-playing game. One takes the part that represents the doctor, the other plays the patient for this period. It can be, for example, a nurse who “treats” her patient.
Safety first with sadomasochism
Safety must always come first, and you must give due regard to the appropriate contraception. Be sure to protect each other from STDs. After all, sex should be fun, whether normal sex, SM, or BDSM. The desire is in the foreground.
But preferences can only be lived out properly if you take care of the appropriate contraception in advance.
Since BDSM sex can sometimes be hard, a condom would be less suitable in most cases. Contraceptives such as the pill, or the IUD, can work great miracles.
Our conclusion to sadomasochism
BDSM and sadomasochism is well suited for some people, whether dominatrix or submissive. There are almost no rules, except that the sex itself must of course take place amicably. Even if at first it seems as if the dominant one forces the submissive to do something.
That is by no means the case. Safe, healthy and consensual. These are the cornerstones of SM. These rules protect you from hurting yourself, catching illness, or losing yourself in irreversible perversion.
When it’s over, it’s over. So always pay attention to the signal word! As soon as you stick to these rules, sadomasochism may not be as violent as it seems at first, or is communicated by many. It’s worth trying, after all, you usually regret the things you never did instead of regretting the things you did do.