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In this article, you’ll learn step-by-step how to satisfy women.
“Darling, last night was so incredibly beautiful…I can’t wait for us to repeat it! You were so damn hot…!”
If you haven’t heard this phrase before in your life, you’re probably starting to ask yourself this question: What am I doing wrong?
Why don’t the women yearn for a second night after having sex with me, or do they simply lie to my face with hot sayings?
For some, it sounds like a scientifically difficult task to satisfy women.
All men have the intimate need to satisfy women. Maybe you’ve asked yourself that before. Satisfying women is not so easy at first glance!
Because it is no secret that men reach their climax more often and faster during sex.
But it is clear in all cases: she too can (and wants) to come to orgasm.
But how? It’s often best if you include some good foreplay, as this will lighten the pressure.
Let’s look at this in more detail below.
If it doesn’t work, it doesn’t have to be all up to you!
Surely you know this feeling: You have that one night in front of you, which you have planned in your head. It’s going to be totally hot and wild. Untamed sex, one orgasm after another, and loud groans…
But then when it finally arrives, it simply becomes a medium-class sexual experience, and your partner hasn’t even come!
The feeling may frustrate, and we tend to always look for our own mistakes first.
That’s why its best to keep in mind: You are the active part in your orgasm, but not solely responsible for your sexual satisfaction.
In other words, if it doesn’t work in one night, it doesn’t necessarily have to be yours. Maybe she was too cramped, had other thoughts in her head, or simply couldn’t let herself go.
If an orgasm hasn’t happened, then there may be many reasons why.
Here you can help yourself with some of our tips and tricks – but please don’t put too too much pressure on yourself, remeber its all about sexual pleasure!
Before sex – important!
The optimal satisfaction of a woman does not begin in bed until you are both naked and you have your finger between her legs.
If you have planned sex for the evening, then you can start hours in advance to get them in the mood. For example, with an erotic WhatsApp message.
And even without her noticing anything!With a little luck and sensitivity, she gets so hot that you are not the one who asks for sex tonight 😉
Paying attention
Real attention shows your partner that you are interested in them and their thoughts and opinions. If you pay attention, it is a beautiful proof of love, which is additionally flattering.
Imagine: A couple sits together on the beach at sunset, and both are busy – just not with each other.
One reads newspapers, the other stares at the mobile phone. Entertainment? Definitely not.
Although we condemn this behaviour in others, we often do the same. Just answer the person very quickly, check the text messages for a short time. A rude attitude towards the person who has taken time for us.
So do it better! Whether you’re dating for your second date or have been together for 6 months – if you meet your partner, be there!
Spend the time you have together consciously with each other and do not live side by side.
You finally love your partner and they should be able to feel your appreciation.
Prepare them subconsciously for sex
So you spend time together, everything is nice and the chances of an exciting evening are good?
Then you can make them hot with small (but effective) tricks long before your planned night!
Sexy news
A bit of Dirty Talk never hurts, and if it is used skilfully and not clumsily, then it can work true miracles!
When she’s still at work and suddenly a message comes through on her phone, saying “Do you want to guess what I’m going to do with you tonight?” or maybe “You looked so hot in your skirt this morning, I can’t wait to take it off afterwards!”, then her mind will play crazy images. Whether she wants it or not!
Automatically at best, their thoughts will wander back to the news and to the coming evening.
Hot notes
What works as SMS on your phone also works Live!
However, pay a little attention to how long you have known yourself. A simple “You smell so good…” combined with a kiss on the neck can stimulate feelings in a relationship. However, on a first date it may seem rather strange.
Slowly push forward and start with harmless sayings. For example, if she compares to people in the movie you’re watching, who just happen to be having sex, ask her innocent questions with ambiguous backgrounds and subconsciously show her that you really want her tonight.
Prepare for sex
There is nothing more beautiful than when you come into the bedroom as a woman and immediately notice that your partner has made an effort.
Where in everyday life everything must always go fast and as practical as possible, at least the sex can still be romantic and completely relaxed.
If the bed is fresh, take a shower (also together), place candles in the room, or even put on a little quiet music.
These are all little extras that later can’t really improve the sex itself, but a soothing, relaxed atmosphere can work wonders for maximum pleasure!
How to satisfy during sex
If you have done everything right and the “preparation” for your evening together was a complete success, then we come to the exciting part!
You went out together and are hot on each other, but what’s next?
With these simple tips you will almost certainly give her an unforgettable night in no time!
The right foreplay
As we all know, it is more than just a myth that women often take longer to get going.
A partner who literally just wants to “put one away” quickly seems not only unattractive, but also not really atmospheric.
Take enough time for the foreplay – kissing, caressing or doing a Nuru Massage – everything that makes for hot feelings is allowed here, and its a fun way to understand what your partner likes too!
Whether it takes you only 10 minutes or two hours, the foreplay counts as the most beautiful part for most couples! So let yourself go and enjoy it, especially as she will be grateful that you take enough time for her most intimate needs.
Pay special attention to your partner’s signals “for safety”. Does her breath get more intense when you touch her, or is she already more than wet downstairs?
Then you obviously did everything right and she is soon ready for the next step 😉
Proper fingering (outside)
As a man, of course, you have a serious advantage: you don’t necessarily need your fingers to satisfy a woman. According to a survey, however, most women are intentaly placed on orgasm by handjob. Here you can dedicate yourself to their highly sensitive areas much better than later on in the actual sex.
And how exactly do you do this?, you will find out now!
Proper fingering does not necessarily mean introducing the fingers into them, therefore this topic sometimes gets divided into “outside” and “inside”!
Because some women don’t like to be penetrated by hand or at all and can go much better if you just look at their labia, their clitoris or the entrance of their vagina.
At the beginning there is no special technique and THE move that definitely works.
Stay relaxed, touch the first time only occasionally and then return to her thighs etc. Gradually, you can make more contact with her vagina, let your finger circulate in a gentle massage or let it glide teasingly between her labia.
Stay creative and relaxed, you’ll quickly notice her reaction of what she liked and didn’t like.
And what is very important is that you stay outside for the first time, especially outdoors! This increases the tension. If you feel like you can also use your tongue, then go ahead and lick it really well.
Whether your partner wants to include your fingers, you will notice pretty quickly. For example, by opening her thighs further or directing your hand independently to her vaginal entrance.
Proper fingering (inside)
The “finger in and out” variant is an old school yard myth and will hardly bring you enthusiastic looks in this case.
Try it instead with an intense, rising G-spot massage!
First, insert only one finger and let them get used to the feeling. In the best case, it has already become quite moist due to your preliminary work, otherwise you should of course use sliding gel for safety reasons.
For example, you can try it with this variant: Slightly bend the index and middle fingers and slowly penetrate them. Your handball is likely to be at the level of your clitoris. During the massage, you can apply pressure to labia and clitoris on a large area and in slowly circling movements, or use your thumb to irritate your tickler.
Now you irritate her G-spot in even movements to the abdominal wall. Also build a few circular movements, remove your fingers teasing completely or penetrate a little deeper.
Properly executed, she will drive such a massage mad until she finally begs you not to stop!
The right shock techniques
That all sounds well and good, but is there anything to consider during the actual sex, where you as a man also get your money’s worth?
Yes, there are!
In dirty movies and stories, the woman always comes to orgasm through as frequent a hard shocks as possible, and in record time. However, we will soon realize that this technique cannot be incorporated into our true sex life.
What matters here is much more the right technique, the change of speeds and some sensitivity.
In normal intercourse, or especially in the case of a quickie, the man’s penis thrusts into the woman’s vagina at a straight angle. For most men this is already the highest of feelings, while the woman feels relatively little to nothing.
Both, however, have more of the number when you know that there are different sensory cells inside the vagina than at the entrance.
At the front of the clitoris and the labia friction feels beautiful, in the vagina the woman reacts rather to pressure.
This is where a varied and intense pushing technique comes into play, which is praised on numerous platforms.
As with any good number, variety is the key to orgasm in this sex technique. When the man penetrates the woman with short, fast movements, not only always candle-straight, but playfully in all directions.
Important: The penis should penetrate only five to six centimeters into the vagina.
Instead of short, fast movements, the man now pushes his partner with slow, deep shocks, in a rhythmic change that varies. And in the process, the relationship between the two components decreases and decreases, and both experience an intense sex.
So: Push several times short in front, then slowly deep and strong. Then throttle the shocks, but make several strong shocks.
The best sex positions for you
Having just talked a bit about quick shock techniques, let’s take a look at the most popular positions among women.
They serve not only for a change in bed (and so that no partner gets a cramp after an hour of exuberant sex) but also for stimulation.
With different positions you reach different pleasure points in your body and thus get maximum feelings.
1: Missionary position
The classic among the sex positions, but classic does not meanboring!
It is the simplest sex position, you don’t have to bend, have a lot of body contact and can look into your eyes. She lies under him with spread legs, while he can penetrate her to his liking.
The advantage of missionary? She is the passive part here, doesn’t need to worry about anything and can fully relax.
Secret Tip: With a pillow under her butt, she meets her loved one even better and the G-spot is stimulated powerfully! With his legs tightened, it can also penetrate much deeper.
2: Rider position
Also a very classic, but equally popular position with her!
When he is riding, he lies on his back and leaves himself to her rhythm. She kneels or squats with legs spread over his lap. Both can look at each other, caress and kiss.
In this position she has more freedom of movement than with other sex positions, can control her movements herself and thus more easily get to reach orgasm.
But even if the man plays the passive part, you shouldn’t let yourself relax completely and let them do everything. After all, you want to bring them to orgasm, don’t you?
Supporting, you can cover her pelvis and buttocks with your hands and, for example, pull them on you surprisingly, so that your best piece disappears deep into it.
Or you adapt to her movements and meet her with every push, so the orgasm is only a touch away!
After sex
Believe it or not, but good sex isn’t over after orgasm!
There is nothing worse than men who turn around after “done work” and fall asleep or get up and leave the bedroom.
Your sex may have been so good, but it will always keep a negative taste in her memory.
To ensure that this does not happen, here are two very important rules!
1. Take some time afterwards
After all, sex is about more than just orgasm, it’s about you and your time together.
For many women, cuddling is one of the highlights after the act and is unfortunately just as often simply omitted.
Draw them closely to you, talk about your sex or about completely inconsequential things from everyday life. Just enjoy a little bit of the closeness you just created.
This does not make her feel like you’ve just put yourself to bed with her for sex.
And who knows, maybe after a little break you are ready for a second round? 😉
2. Compliment her
Everyone likes to hear that they were good. If you have followed all the rules of these articles and fully engaged with your partner, then you will surely hear that too!
Don’t forget to tell her from time to time what you found particularly good about her, or your nights together. This not only creates a nice feeling for her, but will also provide more self-confidence in bed.
But be sure to stick to the truth! An “Oh God, you were so good yesterday, I didn’t know you could get so wild!” won’t be particularly well received if she just enjoyed your romantic sex last night.
This will not take you any further and will only diminish your credibility.
So – rather stick to the facts and find real things that you admire about her.