{"id":11945,"date":"2018-06-08T13:18:09","date_gmt":"2018-06-08T13:18:09","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/gay.blogs.cam4.com\/?p=11945"},"modified":"2018-06-08T13:19:11","modified_gmt":"2018-06-08T13:19:11","slug":"tied-up-w-havotek-kink-101","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.cam4.com\/blog-gay\/2018\/06\/tied-up-w-havotek-kink-101\/","title":{"rendered":"Tied Up W\/ Havotek: Kink 101"},"content":{"rendered":"

Hey everybody!<\/p>\n

I’m Havotek<\/a>, You can call me “Havoc”, or “Havo” for short! I’m here to talk to you about kink and the MANY flavors it comes in!<\/p>\n

I’m a Scruffy Kinkster and Masterclass “Rigger” that identifies with the “Pup” Side of the Kink Community, and Pro-Kink Educator. I’m here to help you\u00a0discover\u00a0your kinky side\u00a0and connect you with communities where you can grow and feel accepted in a safe and sex Positive way! In this blog series, “Tied up with Havotek”, I’ll be discussing the very BASICS of KINK: What it is, the history behind it, and a few of the different flavors to help you narrow down what community you identify with!<\/p>\n

Now that you know a little about ME, Lets talk about something KINKY!<\/p>\n

The 101, The 411, the brief history of KINK:<\/strong>
\nWhile there are many forms and colors of the kinky rainbow, Here is a brief summary of what it means, where it comes from, and how to find YOURS!<\/p>\n

First its important to understand the difference between KINKsters and Fetishes. Everyone is a little bit KINKY because everyone\u00a0has what’s called a FETISH.\u00a0A FETISH is a form of KINK you identify with on an\u00a0erotic level.\u00a0A few different kinds of fetishes \u00a0are “Vanilla Sex”, smoking, leather, bondage, tickling, eating or being fed, role play, etc…Anything that turns you on\u00a0can be considered a fetish.<\/p>\n

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Let’s start with one everyone has heard of – BDSM. Let’s break it down!<\/strong><\/p>\n

B\u00a0is for BONDAGE<\/strong>, a form of restraint for sexual thrill. Common materials used for this kink are leather, rope (my favorite), latex, and basically anything you can tie up your WILLING<\/strong> participant with!<\/p>\n

D is for DOMINANCE & DISCIPLINE.\u00a0<\/strong>It all started with the Kamasutra, and is known as consensual\u00a0aggression inflicted for sexual pleasure.It is VERY IMPORTANT to note that there is a DIFFERENCE between AGGRESSION and VIOLENCE.<\/p>\n

CONSENT is KEY!!!<\/strong> Please make sure all participants are WILLING to take part in your scene, and you have discussed and expressed your limitations CLEARLY to your partner\/s.\u00a0Make sure you have discussed a safe word or action prior to every scene\u00a0in order to prevent unintended bodily or mental harm. If you cover all your bases, you will be able to evolve your variety of FUN again and AGAIN!<\/p>\n

S&M, commonly known as “SADOMASOCHISM.”\u00a0<\/strong>This is generally the BOGO of the BDSM Family. Typically paired together,\u00a0it can be broken down into two like-minded but very\u00a0different parts.\u00a0Self-inflicted\u00a0consensual\u00a0harm or submission for sexual thrill and\u00a0pleasure\u00a0is commonly known as SADISM.\u00a0The receiving or giving of consensual\u00a0harm or domination\u00a0for sexual thrill is commonly known as\u00a0masochism.<\/p>\n

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And THAT’S IT! Those are your BDSM Basics! Now that you know a little bit more about the history of kink and fetishes, look\u00a0forward to future posts recognizing individual KINKS, how to practice them safely, and how you can use them to make the BEST of your scenes to connect with like-minded members of your\u00a0kinky community!<\/p>\n

Have Questions?\u00a0KINKY Topic Suggestions?\u00a0Stories or Experiences you want to share?\u00a0Want to See a Demo or Learn to tie Knots?\u00a0TELL ME ALL ABOUT IT! I would LOVE to hear your recommendations for topics to cover on the CAM4 Gay Blog\u00a0or perform\u00a0a demo \u00a0during a cam show on my CAM4 profile!<\/a><\/p>\n

Don’t be shy – shoot me a message\u00a0to my inbox!<\/a> Drop in during one of my regularly scheduled Kinkster Shows!<\/p>\n

Can’t wait to see you around!
\nHavotek<\/p>\n

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For more information on all things BDSM, kink gear and consent, check out these websites:<\/p>\n

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